Grief is a natural response to loss, and it affects everyone differently. When someone close to us is grieving, it can be challenging to know the best way to help. What they need most is understanding, patience, and genuine support. We’ll provide a guide to supporting someone through grief so you can help a loved one through a difficult time.
The Power of Active Listening and Presence
Sometimes, the most meaningful thing you can do is simply to be there. Actively listening without judgment or interruption gives grieving individuals the space to express themselves. Avoid offering solutions or minimizing their feelings—even silence can be supportive, as long as you’re present and attentive.
Instead of saying, “You'll get through it, don’t worry,” consider asking a thoughtful question like, “Would you like to tell me how you're feeling today?” Reassure them that no emotion is too big or too small to share.
Offer Practical Assistance
Grieving can be emotionally and physically draining. Taking care of day-to-day tasks often falls by the wayside. Offering practical help lightens their load while showing you're thinking of them.
Here are a few ways you can pitch in:
- Cook or deliver meals.
- Run errands, such as grocery shopping.
- Take care of household chores.
- Help with childcare or pet care.
Simple acts of service can be a lifeline during such a heavy season.
Encourage Self-Care
Grief can make self-care feel impossible, but it’s essential for healing. Gently remind your loved one about the importance of rest, eating nourishing meals, and moving their body, even if it’s a short walk around the block.
You can offer to join them in activities they find comforting, such as yoga, relaxing with a book, or simply sitting quietly in nature. Small steps can make a big difference in helping them feel grounded.
Avoid Harmful Clichés
Well-intentioned phrases like “Everything happens for a reason” or “They’re in a better place now” can come across as dismissive. These statements may unintentionally invalidate their pain.
Instead, say things like, “I’m here for you,” or “It’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling.” Validate their emotions, whatever they may be, and create space for them to grieve in their own way.
Encourage Professional Support
Grief doesn’t have a timeline, and for some, navigating it alone may feel overwhelming. If your loved one is struggling to cope, encourage them to seek professional counseling or therapy.
Soulistic Hospice offers bereavement services and grief counseling to families and individuals in Tucson and Southern Arizona, even if the loss wasn’t connected to our hospice care. With experienced counselors and support groups, we offer a safe space for individuals to process grief and heal alongside others who understand.
Offer Compassion That Lasts
Learning how to support a grieving person is not a one-time act. Grief often rises in waves after the initial loss, especially on anniversaries and holidays. Check in regularly, offer kindness without expectations, and remind them they’re not alone.
If you or someone you know is navigating the challenges of loss, Soulistic Hospice is here to help. Our compassionate bereavement counseling offers ongoing support to individuals and families.
